This past week I grew a year older. As I completed another trip around the sun, I came to the realization that I am no longer in my early twenties. At 26, I feel closer to adulthood than ever before. I am finally feeling like I’m figuring out who I am, what life is all about and where I’m meant to be. It is such a blessing to feel comfortable in my own skin and feel closer to the woman I dreamt of becoming as a little girl. It has not always been a smooth ride, in fact it’s been quite the rollercoaster, but every challenge brings growth, and I am thankful for that.
As I was celebrating with friends and loved ones, people kept asking me what my intentions are for this year at this age. The power of intention is something I deeply believe in. I’ve seen it play out in my life – not as a straight line, but something that comes together overtime. I truly believe that everything I have achieved so far is because I’ve visualized it and then worked hard for it. So, as I am transitioning into this new age, I thought I would share with you my intentions for 26.
1. Stop Getting in My Own Way
I think this is something that is challenging for everyone. Often, we are our own worst enemy and the biggest obstacle in our way. As some of you may know, I had been dreaming about launching this blog for over a year, and I continuously got support from my friends and family to do so. However, every time I would consider actually doing the work, I would hesitate at my own fears – that I wouldn’t be good enough or that I would fail. Now that I’ve started, it makes me see how silly I was being to doubt myself so much or to be worried about what others might think. At the end of the day, we are the only ones who truly control our destiny. And if you won’t do something for yourself, if you don’t have the confidence and drive to go after something, it will never happen. So this year, I will stop getting in my own way and start being my biggest supporter.
2. Put Myself First
It is in my nature to put others before myself, especially those I love. Over the years, there have many times where I have loved others so fiercely, that I end up hurting myself. I will put others above myself, cater to others emotional needs while neglecting my own, and sacrifice my own wants to give someone else’s theirs. Now, there’s nothing wrong with a self-less love, but most of the time I’ve realized that others won’t necessarily return my effort. I value friendship and loyalty, but I’ve learned that no one, no matter how close we might be, should take priority over myself. So now, at 26, I will learn to value myself over all others and remember to hold space for my own emotions.
3. Waste No Days
Life is short, and as I get older, I am starting to realize that now more than ever. Sometimes I get so frustrated at how little gets done with a full-time job and a Master’s program. So, this year I will prioritize making the most of everyday I have. I’ve started this by writing down daily, weekly and monthly goals, ensuring that I at least I accomplish one productive thing for my own benefit every day. Now, this doesn’t mean I can’t have lazy days too. I am also starting to realize that sometimes taking a day off to relax and spend the day on the couch is providing to my own mental health, that I need to remember it’s ok to relax and recover from the week. Being productive and proactive isn’t easy, but I’m sure with this intention I will be able to accomplish more than ever.
I hope that you learned something from my intentions, and I hope you set intentions for yourself – not just on the new year, or on your birthday, but every day of your life. Wake up, set intentions, and watch as you turn the life you dream into your reality.
Con Mucho Amor,
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